I constantly struggle between these two statements.
On one end there is peace and on the other restlessness. At the extreme there’s a place I’m solely focused on the possibilities. Hustling, winning, gaining, and acquiring, but still restless. The other extreme is a place I let “I am enough” devolve into “I don’t need to do anything more” and fall into a rut.
Somewhere in the middle is a magical place where we can be at peace with who and where we are while we confidently explore ways to become our best self. I’m actively working to find a way to bring myself back to that place in the middle.
Go look at yourself in the mirror. Look right into your eyes, and say out loud, “I am enough.” I can’t do it without tears. I’m still working to believe this. Exploring my story is helping and has brought me so much peace. I am closer to accepting and appreciating myself for who I am. I can finally give myself permission more regularly to celebrate and enjoy the journey. Some questions I use to explore my story are:
- What are the top 3 experiences in your life?
- What do you value?
- What do you need?
- What do you fear?
- What dreams have you given up on?
- What is the hardest thing you’ve overcome?
- What are your strengths? Weaknesses?
- What do you regret?
- What are you most proud of?
Most of us skip right over our story without accepting and appreciating who we are. That doesn’t work. We can’t hustle our way to happiness…trust me, I’ve tried. If we don’t face the pain and grief of the hard times, then we can’t fully appreciate and celebrate the good times. In every season of life we have things to work on, and things to work through. Avoiding the exploration of my own story and these big questions has prevented me from living my best life and being the best version of myself.
Now that I’ve started this work, I’ve come back to all the possibilities life has to offer in a more meaningful and real way. Before facing myself and my own story, I was doing what others wanted me to do and chasing things that culture told me I should want. Now that I know and understand myself better, the answers to these questions are clearer and more fulfilling:
- What would you do if you only had 6 months to live?
- If you could change something about your life, what would it be?
- Who do you want to be?
- What do you want to be known for?
- How do you want to make people feel?
- What’s getting in the way or holding you back?
- What sacrifices are you willing to make?
People often say, “You can be anything you want to be.” While I appreciate their intention, that statement isn’t true. Honestly, it’s overwhelming. Too much pressure and too many choices.
It is true that no matter what you’ve been through or where you are in life, tomorrow is filled with endless possibilities for you. You have one life, and you matter. Build one that brings YOU peace and purpose. Take time to understand and appreciate who you are today, and confidently explore who you can be tomorrow. We need you.