I see you moonand I wonderhow many different me'shave pondered: Who are you? Who am I?What's this all about? The longer I starethe more I feelus all come together. As if every part of me is known. Every thought. Every whisper. I am seenand heard and held. Safe. Loved. Cared for. A car driving bybreaks … Continue reading I See You Moon →

What is a healthy relationship? I won't forget sitting beside a man in his 50's coming back from the West Coast. In sharing his story with me, he told me that he and his wife lived across the country from each other. He was a doctor in Chicago and she was living with their children … Continue reading To Love Others →

Mom always said, you can't love someone else unless you first love yourself. I knew deep down that was true, but I didn't understand what it meant or what to do with this advice. We are taught growing up to love our neighbor as our self or do unto others as you would have them … Continue reading Restoring Your Relationship with Yourself →

I don’t know. I need help. This is too much. I don't understand. I need a break. Imagine yourself saying these phrases out loud to your friends, family, co-workers and to your boss. What feelings does this bring up? If you are like most of the population (including me), many of these statements elicit shame … Continue reading Radical Courage →

I was recently with some girlfriends in a social setting and we were talking about challenges we were facing. One woman shared how challenging and pressure-filled her job had become because of significant process changes around information security that required more people and more time. These changes inhibited the client experience which was causing extra … Continue reading Well that was intense… →

Letting go is hard. Changing direction can be difficult. We make commitments. We make plans. We don't want to give up. We don't want to fail. What will people think? What does this say about me? What if something changes? What if I could do more? We ask these questions related to relationships, work, hopes, … Continue reading When to Say When →

This yearning won’t quit. The knowing is calling me. It’s beyond what I can understand. Yet I know exactly what it’s telling me.  I have a choice. Stay where I am, Or step into the unknown. What will happen next?  I fear I will be swallowed. Never be the same. Better to avoid these longings. Stay with the guilt and shame.  I know that … Continue reading The Loving Abyss →

We lead who we are. That statement struck me because I knew deep down it was true, but that's not what I had learned. My leadership journey and training had been all about what I've done, not about who I was. I took all the leadership development courses and worked on honing all the skills: … Continue reading Restorative Leadership →

After posting a selfie in my Love is Love pride t-shirt, I was invited into several challenging conversations. Well, let's be honest, some of them were one-way rants more than they were two-way conversations. These situations are challenging. We have strong opinions and can find ourselves wanting to defend our position at all costs. We … Continue reading Surrendering Judgment →